WHAT SHE SAID, WHAT HE HEARD

She said one thing.  You heard something completely different.  Now both of you are frustrated, and neither person feels understood.  For many black men, communication was never something we were formally taught.  We were taught to work.  Provide.  Protect.  Endure. Stay strong. Handle business.  But who taught uis how to listen without immediately trying to fix the problem?Who taught us how to disagree without becoming defensive, shutting down, or turning a conversation into a battle?  What she said, what he heard is a practical communication guide written specifically with the black man in mind.
 Lucius Alston explores the different ways men and women may experience conversation, emotion, conflict, respect, intimacy, stress, and connection, while rejecting the idea that every man or every women communicates exactly alike.  This isn't about blaming black men.  It isn't about blaming black women.  It's about learning how to reach each other.