The Dirty Dozen names twelve everyday coping habits that quietly run our lives (people-pleasing, caretaking, perfectionism, avoidance, over-control, numbing, and more) and shows you how to update them-without shame and without jargon. This first book in the Sacred Self Series pairs nervous-system care with step-by-step pages you can use the moment life spikes. Inside you'll find: Safety Before the Story: a good-enough 72-hour plan (sleep window, food/water, meds as prescribed, one daily anchor).
2-Level Release (3-5 minutes) and AAA (Awareness ? Acceptance ? Action) to calm fast and choose one next step. Parts, made gentle: the Child (needs), Protectors (loyal survival strategies), and the Pilot (your values-led adult self). Protector Upgrades (one-page sheets):Fawn ? Kind Boundary First . Caretaker ? Shared Load, Not Solo .Perfectionist ? Three Bullets, Then Done . Avoider ? Contain ? Contact .Controller ? Control the Controllables .
Numbing ? Soothe First, Then Decide. Today Card & When-Then rails: tiny definitions of "done, " boundary scripts you can say out loud, and steps that help now and later. The tone is practical and kind; the pages are clean and printable. Start anywhere. Practice "badly but often." Let the Pilot lead. This book is educational and not a substitute for clinical treatment. If you feel unsafe or overwhelmed, pause the exercises and seek professional care.
Series: Sacred Self Series - Book 1
The Dirty Dozen names twelve everyday coping habits that quietly run our lives (people-pleasing, caretaking, perfectionism, avoidance, over-control, numbing, and more) and shows you how to update them-without shame and without jargon. This first book in the Sacred Self Series pairs nervous-system care with step-by-step pages you can use the moment life spikes. Inside you'll find: Safety Before the Story: a good-enough 72-hour plan (sleep window, food/water, meds as prescribed, one daily anchor).
2-Level Release (3-5 minutes) and AAA (Awareness ? Acceptance ? Action) to calm fast and choose one next step. Parts, made gentle: the Child (needs), Protectors (loyal survival strategies), and the Pilot (your values-led adult self). Protector Upgrades (one-page sheets):Fawn ? Kind Boundary First . Caretaker ? Shared Load, Not Solo .Perfectionist ? Three Bullets, Then Done . Avoider ? Contain ? Contact .Controller ? Control the Controllables .
Numbing ? Soothe First, Then Decide. Today Card & When-Then rails: tiny definitions of "done, " boundary scripts you can say out loud, and steps that help now and later. The tone is practical and kind; the pages are clean and printable. Start anywhere. Practice "badly but often." Let the Pilot lead. This book is educational and not a substitute for clinical treatment. If you feel unsafe or overwhelmed, pause the exercises and seek professional care.
Series: Sacred Self Series - Book 1