Summary of Shefali Tsabary's Out of Control

Please note: This is a companion version & not the original book. Sample Book Insights: #1 The prisoner-warden approach to parenting is when the parent is the warden, constantly watching the child's actions. The child, in the role of prisoner, does something right or wrong, and the parent responds with either a reward or a punishment. #2 When we discipline our children, we assume that they are inherently undisciplined and need to be civilized.
But what we think of as discipline is actually detrimental and fails to produce the kind of behavior parents want. #3 Because discipline seems to be related to the parent's whims rather than something reasonable, it always triggers resentment in children. They may comply with our demands because we force them to do so, but they resent us as the messenger.