Gregory Bicaj

Why do you keep falling for the same kind of person-and the same kind of heartbreak? Long before your first date, your nervous system already learned what love feels like. In Three Ways to Love, neuroscientist and clinical psychologist Gregory Bicaj reveals the invisible blueprint behind every relationship you've ever had-and shows how the brain's predictive machinery mistakes familiar pain for chemistry. Drawing on attachment research, brain science, and twenty years of clinical practice, Three Ways to Love explains why some of us cling, some of us pull away, and some of us do both at once-and how any of these patterns can be rewritten.
Because your relational blueprint is written in pencil, not ink. Inside, you'll discover: - How your early attachment blueprint silently shapes adult attraction, conflict, and intimacy - The neuroscience of bonding-why dopamine makes inconsistent love feel irresistible - How to recognize anxious, avoidant, disorganized, and secure patterns in yourself and others - The truth about the anxious-avoidant loop and why intense sparks are often alarms - How secure couples actually talk, fight, and repair-and how you can learn it - The science of earned security: real, research-backed change at any age Stop mistaking chaos for connection-and start building a love that finally feels like home.