Summary of Martin N. Seif & Sally M. Winston's Needing to Know for Sure

Please note: This is a companion version & not the original book. Sample Book Insights: #1 There are times when you feel hesitant or unsure about something, so you seek a bit of reassurance, and it works. But there are other times when you become so overwhelmed with the need to know for sure that you are making the right decision or evaluating something properly that no amount of reassurance seems enough. #2 Sometimes reassurance sticks and sometimes it doesn't.
For example, you might hear that your next-door neighbor just bought a car and got a great deal on it. Suddenly you become concerned that you did not get a good enough deal on the car you just bought. #3 Reassurance can be helpful and informative, but it can also be destructive and non-informative. productive reassurance helps you resolve or live with uncertainty, while non-productive reassurance just raises new questions and doubts. #4 Productive and unproductive reassurance are two different things.
Productive reassurance helps you make the best guess while remaining uncertain, while unproductive reassurance attempts to reduce anxiety and discomfort. It allows you to pretend and feel the relief of imagined certainty for a little while.