You are not an alcoholic. You are done. There is a difference. This book is for the gray-zone drinker - the one with a bottle of wine that turns into two with dinner, a couple of beers most nights, a vodka soda when the day was bad and another one because the first one helped. You go to work. You pay your bills. You are not in trouble. You are, however, starting to suspect you might be done. Done Drinking is a direct, unsentimental field manual for the exact decision the recovery industry and the wellness industry have both refused to help you make.
Across fifteen chapters and four parts - The Honest Audit, The Mechanics, The First Ninety Days, and The Long Game - Robert Smith dismantles the moderation lie, names the gray zone the culture finally has language for, and walks you week by week through the part of quitting that almost every other book skips: what happens after the easy first month, when the novelty wears off and the real work begins.
You'll discover:- The Honest Drink Count - the audit that closes the gap between what you think you drink and what you actually drink- Why moderation almost never holds, and the neuroscience of why it isn't your fault- The First-Week Survival Kit - what to prep before your quit date- The Memorized Decline Script - what to say at the table without explaining yourself- The Friday Night Plan - the weekly design that prevents the predictable slip- The Slip Recovery Protocol - what to do in the first twelve hours after a relapse- Year Two - why it is structurally different from year one, and what most people get wrongWritten for high-functioning drinkers, sober-curious readers, wine-mom culture survivors, and anyone who has tried Dry January three times and knows the moderation conversation has run its course.
No twelve steps. No higher power required. No rock bottom needed to qualify. For readers of Quit Like a Woman by Holly Whitaker, This Naked Mind by Annie Grace, and Dopamine Nation by Anna Lembke. You do not need to be an alcoholic to quit. You only need to be done. The whole purpose of this book is to give that decision a place to stand.
You are not an alcoholic. You are done. There is a difference. This book is for the gray-zone drinker - the one with a bottle of wine that turns into two with dinner, a couple of beers most nights, a vodka soda when the day was bad and another one because the first one helped. You go to work. You pay your bills. You are not in trouble. You are, however, starting to suspect you might be done. Done Drinking is a direct, unsentimental field manual for the exact decision the recovery industry and the wellness industry have both refused to help you make.
Across fifteen chapters and four parts - The Honest Audit, The Mechanics, The First Ninety Days, and The Long Game - Robert Smith dismantles the moderation lie, names the gray zone the culture finally has language for, and walks you week by week through the part of quitting that almost every other book skips: what happens after the easy first month, when the novelty wears off and the real work begins.
You'll discover:- The Honest Drink Count - the audit that closes the gap between what you think you drink and what you actually drink- Why moderation almost never holds, and the neuroscience of why it isn't your fault- The First-Week Survival Kit - what to prep before your quit date- The Memorized Decline Script - what to say at the table without explaining yourself- The Friday Night Plan - the weekly design that prevents the predictable slip- The Slip Recovery Protocol - what to do in the first twelve hours after a relapse- Year Two - why it is structurally different from year one, and what most people get wrongWritten for high-functioning drinkers, sober-curious readers, wine-mom culture survivors, and anyone who has tried Dry January three times and knows the moderation conversation has run its course.
No twelve steps. No higher power required. No rock bottom needed to qualify. For readers of Quit Like a Woman by Holly Whitaker, This Naked Mind by Annie Grace, and Dopamine Nation by Anna Lembke. You do not need to be an alcoholic to quit. You only need to be done. The whole purpose of this book is to give that decision a place to stand.