An Ordinary Age: Finding Your Way in a World That Expects Exceptional

Best Book of 2021 -Esquire?Featured on Good Morning America"A meticulous cartography of how outer forces shape young people's inner lives." -Esquire, Best Books of 2021 In conversation with young adults and experts alike, journalist Rainesford Stauffer explores how the incessant pursuit of a "best life" has put extraordinary pressure on young adults today, across our personal and professional lives-and how ordinary, meaningful experiences may instead be the foundation of a fulfilled and contented life.
Young adulthood: the time of our lives when, theoretically, anything can happen, and the pressure is on to make sure everything does. Social media has long been the scapegoat for a generation of unhappy young people, but perhaps the forces working beneath us-wage stagnation, student debt, perfectionism, and inflated costs of living-have a larger, more detrimental impact on the world we post to our feeds. An Ordinary Age puts young adults at the center as Rainesford Stauffer examines our obsessive need to live and post our #bestlife, and the culture that has defined that life on narrow, and often unattainable, terms.
From the now required slate of (often unpaid) internships, to the loneliness epidemic, to the stress of "finding yourself" through school, work, and hobbies-the world is demanding more of young people these days than ever before. And worse, it's leaving little room for our generation to ask the big questions about who they want to be, and what makes a life feel meaningful. Perhaps we're losing sight of the things that fulfill us: strong relationships, real roots in a community, and the ability to question how we want our lives to look and feel, even when that's different from what we see on the 'Gram.
Stauffer makes the case that many of our most formative young adult moments are the ordinary ones: finding our people and sticking with them, learning to care for ourselves on our own terms, and figuring out who we are when the other stuff-the GPAs, job titles, the filters-fall away. What if the most important parts of growing up aren't the highlight reels, but the moments in between? Perfectionism & Being Enough: A compassionate look at why today's young people feel the pressure to be perfect and how the quiet, messy, and imperfect moments are where we truly find ourselves.
The Loneliness Epidemic: An honest exploration of why this is called the "loneliest generation, " moving beyond social media to examine how we build real, lasting connections and community. Dream Jobs & Burnout: From unpaid internships to the myth of the #BestLife, Stauffer dismantles the idea that our work defines our worth and asks what makes a life feel meaningful. Asking the Big Questions: Moving beyond the highlight reel on the 'Gram, this book gives you permission to question everything: who you want to be, what makes a life feel meaningful, and why ordinary moments matter most.